Just Stop It with the Mommy Wars

Just Stop It with the Mommy Wars

We’re all doing the best we can with what we know.

I am so sick of all of the judgmental bull we are being fed as mothers. From the breastfeeding hullaballoo (thanks a lot, Time magazine) to the working versus stay-at-home rhetoric to moms even arguing what makes a feminist a feminist, we seem to be at each others’ throats—which is of course what the media and the government are gleefully attempting to instigate in the first place.

And why wouldn’t they? There is a war on women in our country right now, and as happy as I am that our president FINALLY voiced his support for gay marriage, I have yet to hear him denounce this very real war. Sure, he’s said that he doesn’t like what laws states are passing in terms of women’s uteri, but what has he actually done about it?

If you can go to jail for having a miscarriage, there is something wrong with the way your country views its women.

And if you have to nag and nitpick and announce your way of parenting as the only right way to be a parent, there is something wrong with the way we view our fellow brothers and sisters—our kindred parents.

It’s time that we stood up as parents together and supported one another with a kind hug, a friendly ear, an open heart. Your way of parenting isn’t likely like mine but what right does either of us have to judge one another? If parents needed to support one another at all in history, right now—when schools are failing so badly, when family assistance programs and women’s health care are being slashed so violently, when so many men representing us think they know better than we do about how to raise children, make bodily decisions, and so many other things that most of them will likely never even do 50 percent of the time—is the time to do it.

I think we can, too. More and more parents are calling for either an end or at least a huge change in standardized testing. More parents are being open about what breastfeeding means, what attachment parenting is; even more encouraging, parents are pressuring Congress to outlaw harmful chemicals that can hurt our children.

Let’s not let politics come between us as we do our best to raise the future leaders of tomorrow. Instead, let’s work together, not allowing today’s leaders to wedge us apart, and form a circle of parental support. Because let’s face it—we could all use some of that.