are all different. Some will eat anything you put in front of them, while others refuse to go near anything new. My 3 year old is the pickiest eater I have ever met. She only likes a handful of fruits and will not eat vegetables at all (except at school they tell me she eats carrots). She is also not a big meat eater, which is tough because she needs her protein. Everyday is a struggle, but I make sure she gets her nutrients through Pediasure and vitamins. I know I am not alone with this problem. I am told this is fairly common with toddlers and young children. After all, I was a very picky eater as a kid and I still am, to an extent. At her 3 year well check-up, I discussed her lack of wanting to eat anything healthy or new with her pediatrician. Below, I have listed her suggestions, as well as one of my own that you may find helpful if you are dealing with a similar situation.
Many experts warn that letting your baby cry will damage their trust with you, as a parent. This is because your baby needs to trust that you will be there to take care of them when they are in need. After all, up until a certain age, crying is the only way in which they know how to communicate. Experts also warn that letting a baby cry too much can damage neurons in their brains, as well as affect their personality later in life, making them much less self assured children and adults.
I myself believe that some people who warn against CIO "dangers" do not know what it is. This method is certainly not one where you let your child cry for hours on end. It is simply a way of letting your baby cry for fixed periods of time and then soothing them for short periods of time in between. For example, you can let your baby cry for 2 minutes, then soothe them, and then bump that time to 4 minutes and then soothe them. You would continue to increase the time that you let your child cry until they finally fall asleep on their own. My personal threshold is 5 minutes. This seems to work for me. Once I get to 5 minutes, my son seems to be tired enough to go to sleep on his own. I believe the recommended time to work up to is 15 minutes. Doctors advise you to never let your baby cry for more than 30 minutes at a time.
I personally think that CIO is appropriate when your baby is being clingy for no reason or simply wants to be held. I have this issue with my son. He will sleep fine until I put him down and then he cries and cries. He screams in a manner that would make you think that he was being hurt, when in fact, he just wants mommy to be there holding him. This is a time when I think CIO is appropriate. The clingy habits need to be broken. I think babies should be able to self-soothe to a point; however, they should not have to do so completely. After all, why should a baby have to "toughen up"?
Let's face it, being a mom is a stressful job. After all, everyone depends on YOU. I take pride in doing things for myself so that I can be rewarded for my hard work. If I do not pamper myself once in a while, I think I would go insane. Below are a variety of different ways in which you can spoil yourself too. No excuses, you deserve it!